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Why Familiarity Feels Safe: Breaking Relationship Cycles



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Welcome to today’s blog, Breaking Relationship Cycles, where we dive into the fascinating connection between our mindset, subconscious beliefs, and the obstacles we face in life rooted in past patterns.


If you’re struggling to achieve your dreams or heal from past trauma, know that you’re not alone. Many of us find ourselves stuck in familiar cycles—whether it’s repeating relationship patterns, facing financial difficulties, or dealing with emotional challenges. Often, these patterns echo the experiences of our parents or caregivers. This concept, rooted in epigenetics, sheds light on why we might choose partners who resemble our upbringing or face similar obstacles as our families, particularly, our parents.


Why Familiarity Feels Safe

Our primal mind loves familiarity. When confronted with uncertainty, it clings to known patterns, like repeating the dynamics of our parents' relationships. This behavior is influenced by epigenetics, which suggests that our experiences and environment shape our beliefs. Many of these beliefs are formed early in life, especially before age seven, when our subconscious is most impressionable. Understanding these patterns can reveal how they affect our current conditions and relationships.


For instance, you may find yourself attracted to partners who display traits reminiscent of a controlling father or a nurturing mother. These familiar behaviors can lead to recurring hardships and financial challenges that mirror those faced by our families. The good news? We have the power to rewrite these narratives! By revisiting and reframing our beliefs from childhood, we can disrupt these cycles.


Embracing Change

Let’s ask ourselves an important question: What do we truly want, and how can we overcome the belief that we can’t have it? Often, our suffering stems from resistance, driven by fears—fear of failure, fear of success, or even fear of change. Interestingly, many of us fear the very life we dream of, whether it’s perfect health, financial freedom, or an ideal relationship. This fear can stem from concerns about what achieving those dreams might require from us.


This is where visualization comes in. By using powerful visualization techniques, we can reprogram our minds and embrace an abundance mindset. Imagine living your ideal life or engaging in a healthy relationship—what would that look like for you?


Understanding Our Fears

To understand our fears, we need to explore their origins. Have you ever thought about where your fears originate? Often, they are rooted in the beliefs we formed as children. By recognizing these origins, we can dissolve the resistance that keeps us stuck.


In my own journey, I found that developing compassion for my father—despite any resentment—helped me uncover the beliefs he held, many of which were inherited from his upbringing. Cultivating compassion for our caregivers and acknowledging their struggles can help us release the burdens of resentment and fear.


Breaking the Relationship Cycle

In trying to avoid becoming like our parents, we can inadvertently repeat their patterns. It’s essential to examine how our upbringing influences our current relationships. Are you drawn to partners who reflect the affection—or lack thereof—of your childhood?

My experience changed when I reflected on my caregivers’ beliefs, my father’s in particular, and recognized how their backgrounds shaped our parent-child interaction patterns. This understanding can shed light on our patterns and guide us toward healthier relationships.


The people in our lives often act as mirrors, reflecting the lessons we need to learn. I like to call them the "key players" in our journey, challenging us to evolve and helping us craft the life we desire.


Seeking Approval and Validation

We often seek validation from the very parent(s) who made us feel unloved. This creates a push-and-pull dynamic, leading to significant resistance in our lives. The love we missed from a parent can drive us to seek it in partners, often attracting relationships that echo those familiar dynamics.

This journey involves examining how our upbringing shapes our relationships and self-worth. Are you unconsciously looking for approval from the very figures you wish to distance yourself from? Exploring these dynamics can reveal our deepest insecurities and desires.


Transformative Growth

The challenges in our lives can transform into opportunities for growth. The individuals who challenge us are often the unsung heroes of our stories. By reframing their roles, we can see how they helped us confront fears and push past limitations.


As we revisit those we may have resented, we can uncover valuable lessons—what they taught us, even indirectly. Most often, we develop new strengths and skills as a result that may have translated into the professional career that now funds our lives! Recognizing these individuals as part of our growth journey enables us to break free from the beliefs that limit us.


If you’re ready for deeper transformation in your marriage, health, or financial situation, I invite you to explore our PANACEA program. This step-by-step system is designed to help you recode beliefs and break free from the fears that keep you stuck.


Embracing the Journey

Through the principle of polarity, we learn that hardship can lead to strength and creativity. Many artists have faced trauma, using it as a springboard for self-expression and success.

As we reflect on those we may have resented, we can uncover valuable lessons. Often, we develop new strengths that fuel our careers. Recognizing these individuals as part of our growth journey helps us break free from limiting beliefs.


By embracing this natural cycle, we can see our experiences as part of a greater design, bringing meaning and purpose to our lives. This understanding allows us to let go of old patterns and step into a higher version of ourselves.


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Want to delve deeper into relationship patterns?


Check out my free eBook, Beyond the 5 Love Languages: Breaking the Cycle, or watch the video on The Psychology Behind Our Relationship Choices.


Let’s break those cycles together!



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Twin Sisters and Founders of Liberated Living

About the Authors


Corinne Sullivan B.Sc, HPY & Camille Sullivan HHP, NP


Founders of Liberated Living, Holistic Psychology & Health Health Practitioners, Authors, Psychotherapists, Holistic Iridologist & Educators of Internationally Accredited Diplomas + Turnkey Business Model, Advanced Epigenetic & Holistic Psychology & Naturopathic Certification Programs




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